Surrogate Partner Therapy - overcoming fear and pain in intimacy

Surrogate Partner Therapy - Edwin
Surrogate Partner Therapy - Edwin

 

What is Surrogate Partner Therapy?

 
      Hi, my name is Edwin, and I am a Surrogate Partner, trained and supervised through the International Professional Surrogates Association (IPSA).  Through Surrogate Partner Therapy (SPT) I offer my clients safe experiences to overcome limitations in emotional, physical, and sexual intimacy due to fear or pain.
 
       As someone who experienced childhood sexual violation, I have a lifelong track record of valuing emotional and physical safety in intimacy.  My personal journey in healing from challenges in intimacy, including sex therapy, and my professional therapeutic training place me in the unique position to serve as an adjunct to traditional talk therapy, where I help clients bridge the confidence gap that limits continued growth. My work as a surrogate partner allows me to "pay it forward" with my clients in experiences that are as meaningful to them as they are to me.  I help clients with a variety of conditions that may be barriers to intimacy including:
  • social phobia
  • sexual phobias
  • sexual aversion
  • body image concerns
  • sexual informational deficits
  • sexual orientation confusion
  • sexual pain (including vaginismus)
  • delayed sexual experience (late-life virginity)
  • hypoactive sexual desire disorder (decreased libido)
  • arousal and orgasmic disorders (such as preorgasmia)
  • survivors of rape, incest, emotional, physical, or sexual abuse

 
Media
Click this link to listen to Edwin's radio interview regarding 
Surrogate Partner Therapy on KSYM 90.1 San Antonio.

 
 
What is Surrogate Partner Therapy?
 

          As a surrogate partner, I invest my mind, heart, body, experience and training, to provide safe experiences to help women overcome difficulties in emotional, physical and sexual intimacy.  I work exclusively in a three-way relationship with a client who is concurrently in counseling with her psychologist, professional counselor, sex therapist, or clinical sexologist. 

          Surrogate Partner Therapy was introduced in the 1970s by famed sex therapy researchers William Masters and Virginia Johnson.   Masters and Johnson produced extensive studies on human sexuality and the difficulties that some encounter in healthy function.  They introduced the concept of enlisting trained surrogate partners to help clients work through their difficulties.  Their techniques of gradually progressive structured exercises in breathing, relaxation, non-sexual and sexual contact were found effective in helping to resolve a wide variety of conditions.  The interaction between the surrogate partner and the client has the added benefit of bringing to the surface the specific areas of difficulty so that they can be intentionally and safely addressed within the therapeutic team of the surrogate partner, the client, and the therapist.   
          SPT is supplemental to those in counseling who need experiential growth in addition to the valuable time spent verbally and mentally processing their concerns.  Much like learning to ride a bicycle, we also need to physically experience riding to learn the complexities of pedaling, balancing and steering; to develop “muscle memory”; and to develop the confidence to get back up when we stumble.  As a surrogate partner, I offer a supportive and guiding hand to help my clients progress towards more independent and confident performance.